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Men's Health.com has hooked you up with 6 questions to ask your girl. If she passes this test, she may be the one for a lifetime.

THE TRAIT: Responsibility
THE TEST: Play the blame game. Next time she rear-ends someone during rush hour or spills coffee on her lap, listen to her postgame analysis. "Successful couples focus on positives," says Scott Haltzman, M.D., a psychiatrist and the author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. "Is she the eternal victim? Or does she accept responsibility?"

THE TRAIT: Patience
THE TEST: Talk about work. The story of the time she made an intern cry may have made you laugh, but all that attitude won't stay cooped up in cubicle land. "If she tears a coworker a new one for no reason, watch out. Her attitude at work will show what she's like under pressure," says John Van Epp, Ph.D., author of How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk.

THE TRAIT: Empathy
THE TEST: Take her shopping. Malls are buffets of human interaction -- peeved customers, airhead clerks, moms with kids, all of them begging for vitriolic color commentary. "You want to see empathy for the stressed and clueless. If she thinks most situations and solutions are clear-cut, expect the same absolutism with you," says Dr. Haltzman.

THE TRAIT: Adaptability
THE TEST: Make last-minute plans. Sure, you were planning to see a chick flick, but now the only film not sold out is Scary Movie 19. Relationships change constantly, so see if she can roll with it. Another time, show up 15 minutes late. If things like that set her off, "She will have no problem finding ways you disappoint her," Dr. Haltzman says.

THE TRAIT: Flexibility
THE TEST: Cook dinner at her place. If she's a control freak who can't cede dominion over her kitchen, she'll have a hard time letting you take the reins elsewhere in life. Even if she's a gourmet, she should still willingly accept your different, yet still effective, way of chopping carrots, says Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth about Love.

THE TRAIT: Confidence
THE TEST: Deprive her of the spotlight. Take her to a friend's party, then watch her mingle. Does she seek constant male attention? Could be needy. Dodges women? Not good: Women "deliver necessary honesty" to other women, says Love. Also, she knows that your female friends will offer a more realistic review of her. Talking with them shows brass.