Sex on a Schedule

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The folks at MensHealth.com help you make the most of your time when it comes to sex. Here are some ideas, depending on how much time you have.

YOU HAVE: 5 MINUTES

Your strategy: Skip the schedule

She loves quickies because their exciting. You love them because they're like SportsCenter: all highlight, no filler. Take her lead, says Tara Roth Madden, author of Romance on the Run. "It can't be just one more thing on my to-do list," she says. If you're worried she'll think you're quick on the trigger, tell her it's just a preview.



YOU HAVE: 30 MINUTES

Your strategy: Pass the baton
"Spend extra time focusing on each other's body and your intercourse will be more action-packed," says sexologist Carol Queen, Ph.D., author of Exhibitionism for the Shy. You're working toward a climax. She suggests kisses and gentle strokes in the sensitive nooks where the body bends, such as the wrists, the crooks of the elbows, and the backs of the knees. Nerves can predict where you're headed if you move in a straight line, so use a zigzag stroke instead.



YOU HAVE: 1 HOUR

Your strategy: Warm up longer

Awaken your partner's erogenous zones all over her body by giving her a 20-minute massage. You'll both get a happy ending. "This isn't a health club," Queen says. "Keep her focused on the sexy nature of the massage, not the relaxing, sleep-inducing side of it." Start with her back, then ask her to roll over so you can work your way toward her breasts and clitoris. And whatever you do, don't go all crazy on her breasts. A gentle, firm touch will suffice.



YOU HAVE: ALL NIGHT

Your strategy: Turn tricks

There are two ways to last all night. In tantric sex, you separate your orgasm from ejaculation. "Around 80 percent of men can do this after 3 months of training," says psychologist and sexologist Barnaby Barratt, Ph.D., author of Sexual Health and Erotic Freedom. Too New Age? Separate ejaculation from bedtime. The average postorgasm limp period in 30-year-olds is about half an hour. While you're waiting, try some new tricks. "It's all about variety," says Amy, 22. "Too much of one thing gets boring, even if that one thing is very good."